Losing someone, at any time in your life, is an incredibly difficult experience. You may want to run away from the feeling, you may feel like it’s not happening, and ultimately, you’re all over the place. Of course, we all have our own ways of dealing with our emotions at a time like this, but there are some things to keep in mind.
For example, something like self care is essential at a time like this, but knowing you’re also doing your best to remember who you’ve lost is going to give you some real peace of mind. Most people feel more able to move on, and you’re definitely going to be able to get your memories out there.
Create a Collage
A collage is a lovely thing to put together in the first place, but it’s also a good thing to put together in remembrance of someone. Knowing you have all of these pictures to put together can be very comforting in itself, and then displaying them in a loving and affectionate manner can help you to get your feelings out.
Plus, collages are always nice to look at, so once you’re done hang it on the wall or put it pride of place on a bookshelf or mantelpiece.
Have Something to Visit
No matter how your loved one was interred, knowing you’ve got something to visit once they’re gone is a big part of the grieving process. Being able to go somewhere dedicated to feeling and working through your emotions about loss gives you a physical space to recover in, and setting up something like headstones in bronze on your loved one’s grave can really set the right tone.
Take your time with things like this, as physical memories can take a while to both put together and get used to. But you’ll thank yourself for all of your efforts one day, as you become more and more at peace with the reality.
Take Time on Anniversaries
For the first few years, this is going to be difficult, but as you move on and live your life, you’re going to see days like these as special moments that deserve celebrating. And you know what? You deserve that too! Anniversaries are special days for a reason, and ignoring them will make you feel worse.
You deserve to be able to have a few hours on a day that meant a lot to your loved one, to remember them and so something in their moeory. Even just laying flowers or cooking their favorite meal work amazingly well here. After all, these activities don’t have to be physically or mentally intensive; they’re supposed to make you feel better.
Remembrance is a key part of grieving, and loss in general, and being able to work through your feelings healthily. If you don’t let them out, they’re just going to make you sick, so make sure you’re always doing something to take care of yourself at times like these.
How do you cope with loss? What are some things that have helped you cope with loss? Let me know in the comments below.