Stop Using Mental Illnesses As An Excuse To Be Lazy

So the other day I heard some girls in my seminar talking. One was complaining about how she never comes to lecture because she’s too lazy to and how she wants the notes though and she was trying to figure out how to get them because our professor doesn’t upload them. They went through multiple ways to get them when one suggested you can just say you have anxiety and then the school will get you notes from another student in the class. The other one enthusiastically agreed that faking anxiety was the best way to get away with stuff.

Here’s the problem I have with this apart from the obvious ethical ones. As someone who actually does suffer from anxiety I hear negative comments about it all the time- about how it’s not real, we’re just faking it to get out of doing stuff, we’re just lazy. And I along with a huge number of people who suffer from mental health problems go out of our way to break this stigma and then people like this come along and just reinforce the stereotype that we’re just lazy and trying to get out of doing stuff.

I always go for that class even when it takes actual energy to even get out of bed. I always hand in my assignments on time even though it’s like getting kicked in the stomach for my mental health. I always go out of my way to try to be as “normal” as possible without letting my mental health problems get in the way of my education.

It just seriously pissed me off to see these girls treating mental health problems like this because it’s people like this who are ruining it for people who actually do have mental health problems and who actually do need extra assistance.

If you’re reading this and are thinking of using mental health problems as an excuse I’m asking you to please rethink it. It’s not just an easy way out- your actions are effecting millions of people who are suffering and trying so hard to break free from stereotypes about mental health.

Sorry for the rant but this incident just really pissed me off and I needed to share it with someone.

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  1. Stardreamer

    I was just denied disability, cause I can think for myself, even tho I have anxiety for 40 years, arthritis, and c
    COPD. People like those girls are making it even harder for us…thank you for helping us fight the good fight. And merry holidays!💖

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    • PoojaG

      I’m so sorry you were denied disability. It’s ridiculous that they don’t treat mental health the same way they would a physical illness- just because you can’t always see the symptoms physically doesn’t mean they aren’t there.
      Thanks for stopping by and happy holidays to you too!

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  2. MissJune68

    You have every right to be completely pissed off. You are 100 percent correct. I feel the same way when people claim rape, illness, abuse or any other legitimate issue if they’re only making it up as an excuse or for attention. It makes it difficult for people who are legitimately struggling. It makes real things less. It takes away from people who don’t deserve to have anything more taken from them. All any of us can do is our best. It’s enough.

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  3. Hilary Tan

    That’s definitely sheer laziness. There’s days I don’t want to get out of bed either so that’s a pretty lame reason for wanting to get out of class. If she knows the prof doesn’t upload notes, then she shouldn’t have signed up for that class in the first place (unless it’s a requirement). And if she doesn’t even want to be there, why is she even bothering with school? It’s called adult responsibilities.

    As for disabilities, I feel like everyone these days uses the disability card for some reason or another. I know people with major disabilities and what would definitely qualify as a major disability anyways, and yet there’s so many able-people who abuse this. Ugh. It pisses me off.

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    • PoojaG

      Yes exactly why not just take a course that’s better suited for you. The professor told us on the first day of class that he doesn’t upload the notes or send them to anyone no matter what. It is not a required class she could have just dropped it and picked something else. It’s a very frustrating situation.

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  4. jesusluvsall

    I agree with you my friend. People faking things like anxiety can make it more difficult for the people who truly do have anxiety problems to be believed. For me it is also kind of mocking people who really do have anxiety. As an educator, I am proud of students who truly do struggle and overcome to finish assignments etc.

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    • PoojaG

      Yeah it is definitely mocking people with actual anxiety problems because it’s like telling them they’re lazy and their problems aren’t real. I hope people understand over time that mental health is a real problem that a lot of people suffer from.

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  5. Richard Le Sueur

    Your rant is on point and I can totally not only emphasize with it, but identify with it as well. Lack of ability may be a reason for some things, however it should not be used as an excuse. Even worse is when it is used falsely, that is beyond lazy.

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    • PoojaG

      Thanks I’m glad you understand where I’m coming from. It’s very frustrating when people use it as an excuse when there are people who do actually suffer from these problems and do actually need extra assistance.

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  6. Sharon

    I share your anger on this point as someone who has suffered form mental illness all my life I have struggled on, never letting anyone know the truth, largely because of the stigma and because I felt I had to, it has only been in the last 12 months that I have been willing to publicly admit to this issue, normally I would just use up my holiday leave or my sick leave without letting anyone know the real reason. Like you I went through uni making sure I meet deadlines and never made excuses if something was late so people who do this also piss me off and it is not uncommon these days but boy it is infuriating.

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    • PoojaG

      Thanks you for your comment and yes that’s exactly what I’m talking about- people with actual mental illness are forced to suffer and live with this stigma while trying to live a “normal” life while people like this just take advantage of things.

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  7. limitlessmare

    It is frustrating when people ruin it for the rest of us who are truly struggling. I’m weary of the “use and abuse” that happens in the world in so many arenas. There are countless examples in the mental health world and that is infuriating. Great post, this is important stuff

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  8. JK

    You’re so freaking amazing thank you so much for sharing this with us (me) as I can COMPLETELY RELATE TO YOU and I am really grateful to have you put into words how I feel and knowing that I am not alone in this journey. Love ❤️

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  9. The Newbury Girl

    Omg reading this made me so furious. In my school you had to “prove it” in that you needed medical documentation for any sort of disability accommodation.

    So hopefully that girl won’t get away with faking it. Really does those who are actually in need a disservice bc it just adds to the negative stigma.

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  10. mentalhealthfromtheotherside.wordpress.com

    It’s awful to hear about someone faking mental illness (I’ve known some people also) as – and as an excuse to get out of attending class – it makes it more difficult for those of who do actually experience mental illness. I think I might have said something to them, explain what anxiety feels like and see if they still want to use it as an excuse!

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  11. Judy Kim

    Wow I’ve never heard of being able to receive class notes because of anxiety. I’ve experienced anxiety and depression all of my life and I just coped and did my best. I went to college decades ago but we weren’t given any special treatment. I now work as a scheduler, when staff call in sick I try to find replacements for them. There’s one young woman who calls in sick for almost every shift and her excuse is anxiety. She receives accrued sick pay and she won’t be fired but it’s a very unfair situation for her coworkers. I don’t know what the fair solution is. Some people take advantage, while others cope and manage to succeed despite their illness.

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  12. Antonella Barberini

    Well, yes this describes perfectly how hard it was for me to gain trust when I went through my PTSD after attacks in Paris, and I lived a fake alert ( your brain doesn’t do any difference if fake or true in the momentum ); I fought for my self; I reached for help and found happily the best doctors and counsellors who supported me and guided me. I am very grateful today. They are still in my life; I regained my long term contract after 3 years. And many pressures. I wasn’t expecting anymore and almost returned to Italy, chez Maman. I like your writing and topics. Keep it up and Merry Holidays dear xx Antonella

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  13. Alejandro Marrero

    This is well written and understood. Firstly I appreciate the valor and honor and good ethics you have despite the challenges life experiences has given many of us. Keep that integrity. As far as those who seek to pretend or feign suffering as an excuse to be lazy at the expense of others whom are truly in need it’s beyond morally wrong. They should be reported because that kind of behavior is not just wrong it’s evil. I dislike when people who are malevolent do terrible crimes with guns and the first thing that is said is that they had mental health issues. I feel this is too often a disservice and insult to those that have mental health challenges. Sometimes people are just bad apples. Don’t group them with anyone else to achieve an agenda. If these people understood 1% of how crippling and impairing PTSD, Panic Attacks, Agoraphobia, Anxiety, Insomnia and all the other things that some us face they’d know those words were inappropriate. The fact you’re able to continue pushing forward and working on yourself through your moments and challenges shows courage and hope. I’ve read a couple of responses here to your post and they’re too numerous to respond to individually with the empathy, kindness and compassion merited by all of us in this thread without triggering myself. However understand I admire all of you for being candles of light chasing away the dark. Together we can light up the world with kindness and open honest dialogue. I appreciate your post and everyone who replied in good faith.

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    • PoojaG

      Thank you so much for your comment and I agree with you fully. Grouping everyone with mental illness with certain people who commit crimes not only further stereotypes mental health but it leads to people using it as an excuse to behave badly. I really hope someday we can find a way to end the stigma around mental health and to stop using it as an excuse for people’s horrible behaviour.

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  14. Michelle

    This does take away what anxiety really is and hurts how schools see it. Hopefully the school has something in place to tell if she is lying or not. I have anxiety and depression. It makes many things difficult for me. I can try to be normal and fail many times. I have had severe anxiety attacks at work before but went about the rest of my work day like it never happened even though it affected me on the inside.

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    • PoojaG

      Yeah only people who have mental health can fully grasp how crippling it can be and how we are forced to act “normal” even when we don’t feel that way. I hope our school finds a way to stop her and anyone else attempting to use mental health as an excuse in this way.

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  15. Antidote

    This was not a rant. You could’ve written more about this subject!
    1. I applaud you for making it to class. Having something to do is one way of coping, healing and way of actually getting better. Denying going to class will only make things work, not to mention that you will beat yourself up later for not going (I mean, why adding to the pile of things for overthinking when you can actually do the opposite).
    2. It is really nice of you for taking the stand. When the system is abused, the people who really need help wont get it because someone decided to be lazy today. It is NOT ok. Later, when these people go to work, they will try to get out of their working responsibilities and their assignments will go to people that already do their jobs perfectly.
    So when you think about it, everything is one big chain.
    Next time, don’t be afraid to even talk with them and tell them the unpopular opinion (that you will be hated for later, but you’ll know you did the right thing).

    Have a nice one!
    Antidote 😉

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    • PoojaG

      Thank you and thanks for your support I appreciate it and I’m glad other people understand where I’m coming from. You’re right I hope if this ever happens again I can talk to them and maybe help them understand what having mental health problems is really like and why they shouldn’t act like this.

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  16. amymayj

    What absolutely vile behaviour! It’s girls like that who are the reason why people still don’t take mental illness seriously! Totally get where you’re coming from, that would have severely pissed me off too, I’m sure many others will agree with you as well! xx

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  17. bosssurvivor

    I couldn’t agree with you more!! Good job on this article I really appreciate this story being told. Like you said, we actually have these issues and are typically FAR from lazy, and then you get these twits out there using it as an excuse. Keep sharing this girl!!

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  18. aluapgnidliw

    I agree with your post about anxiety. When I was first diagnosed over ten years ago there was nothing very helpful available on the internet so thank you for posting. I would like to ask if you said all if this to the people you overheard or just post your thoughts on here. Secondly, don’t your tutors require some medical proof that a person suffers with anxiety?

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  19. randomsahmthoughts

    I must admit, the title of this post made me bristle… I thought it would be a post comprised of an ill-conceived motivational speech for people with mental illness. Before my depression diagnosis, my dad accused me of being lazy. He wasn’t being evil, it was a reflection of the household HE grew up in. And he saw me as an over-achiever in high school, then failing grades and poor attendance in college to him looked lazy when in fact all the changes in my life were overwhelming and I was coming undone, but ashamed to ask for help at first. Mental illness is hard… people that fake it for whatever reason (laziness, attention seeking, to excuse poor behavior) are right there with people that lie about their pet being a service animal and people that illegally park in handicapped spots.

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    • PoojaG

      Yeah a lot of times people who say that it’s just laziness or whatever tend to not come from a bad place but are more of a reflection of where they came from and how they were brought up. People that fake mental illness knowingly are just being evil in my opinion.

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