The End Of Teenhood And Beginning Of Adulthood
So tomorrow is my birthday (20th April). In the past years it seems as though my excitement for my birthdays are deteriorating and a sort of sadness seems to be present instead. I guess I just don’t like the fact that I’m growing up and it kind of scares me that I am going to be an independent adult soon. It feels weird knowing that I will no longer be a teenager anymore. Honestly it sounds weird but I didn’t ever expect I would become an adult. I mean I knew I would eventually stop being a teenager but I guess it just never consciously hit me how fast time passes and how I would become an adult in the blink of an eye.
I feel like this past year was the year that I learnt the most about the universe and about myself and I’m glad I figured a lot of stuff out before turning twenty because it will definitely help me in my journey.
So to sum it up I am absolutely terrified of becoming an adult but at the same time I have to admit I am looking forward a new chapter of my life As a child I counted the days till I could grow up and live my own life. My sister actually likes to tell me that I was born an adult and I have just kept aging ever since. Honestly, I understand what she means because I always had the tendency of being mature for my age. I always made the most rational and logical decisions and I have always leaned towards everything rational and I do have a tendency of being emotionally closed off and distant. So maybe I will enjoy adulthood after all!
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81 Comments
Sangbad
Same pinch…
PoojaG
😁
Sangbad
😊
scifihammy
Happy Birthday for tomorrow! 🙂
PoojaG
Thank you so much!!
scifihammy
🙂
WordsInVision
Happy birthday !😊✍️
PoojaG
Thanks! 🙂
kiranmag
Wishing you many happy returns of the day in advance …the fact is that we can’t stop ourselves growing up and with growing responsibilities grow up too.Me yet to reach 20 still 😊
PoojaG
Thank you so much! Yes unfortunately we can’t hit pause at our favorite age and that sucks but I honestly think growing up has it’s advantages and even though the responsibilities increase there is a lot more to look forward to 🙂
radhikasreflection
Advance birthday wishes Pooja. I am sure you will have a great new chapter unfolding! 🎂
PoojaG
Thank you so much! 😊😊
sarahrussellpoetry
Happy birthday. You’ll be a fine adult, especially if you always keep a little of the child inside. You can’t see magic without that inner child.
PoojaG
Thank you! Yes staying young on the inside is definitely very important! 🙂
Storyteller
Happy Birthday in advance 🎂🍫 have a good one!
PoojaG
Thank you so much! 😊😊
bbgcmac
You sound like a very thoughtful young lady. Careful and considerate. I remember thinking that I had seminal birthdays growing up. 13, 16, 18, 19 (cause it was over 18) and then 20… cause I was no longer a teenager. After that it was like 25, 28, then 30. Hell I’m 50 now and there is more than I forgot than I remember about my 20s and 30s. What I have told young people like yourself is that the 20s are critical to set up the rest of your life. If you can get to 30 without ruining your credit, getting a felony or having a child with the wrong person, then you are way ahead of the game. Sadly when either of these occur, the 30s are spent paying the price and attempting to work around the mistakes of the 20s. Maybe if you’re lucky when you are 40 you can start to live your life and find out what you were about in the first place. The most important thing about ‘time’ is to understand the value of NOW. NOW there is no time. There just IS… time is future or past. Most of us spent an inordinate amount of TIME obsessing over either of those. Plan ahead… sure. Reflect and learn… absolutely. But make the most of the NOW… and I believe when you look back and reflect you will find your life was well lived.
All the best!
PoojaG
Thank you so much! That is incredibly helpful advice. Yeah I think it’s your twenties that shape who you’ll be for the rest of your life and it’s very easy to make mistakes but I think as long as you try your best to avoid certain situations you will do pretty well.
It is so important to live in the moment and growing up I had the tendency to always dream about the future and I still have the tendency to not live in the moment but it’s something I’m definitely working on. It’s great to plan stuff ahead of time but overthinking everything and trying to hard to make your future perfect is definitely not the answer.
Skyscapes for the Soul
Happy birthday for tomorrow. Just keep on making the sane decisions and perhaps you will do better than many. I think the scarier part is not just the turning-20 bit, but those moments that you’re in a situation and realize there’s no one adultier-than-you to turn to. A couple years ago I was doing a kids workshop, and had a moment when I all these Mom’s had dropped off about 20 8-14 year olds with me for a couple hours and I realized – aw cr*p, I’m it!
PoojaG
Thank you! Yeah I think in situations like that it just really hits you like omg I’m the adult now, I have to make all these decisions and start being an adult! I could imagine how your situation would be terrifying realizing your the only adult there!
shruti502
Wishing you loads of greetings and a very Happy Birthday!
PoojaG
Thank you so much! 😊
Roseelaineblog
Aww don’t be sad, age is but a number think of me I am three times your age OMG 😲 now I’m depressed 😫
PoojaG
Haha thanks! Don’t worry even though you’re older then I am you’re still doing so much with your life like learning painting, writing online and making cards!!
Roseelaineblog
Yeah and to be honest I’m having the best time EVER I love being 60 😉
PoojaG
Yeah exactly as long as you have fun and make sure your happiness is your priority age really doesn’t matter that much!
grumpygorman
Happy bday 🙂 look forward to your posts in the upcoming year.
PoojaG
Thank you so much!! 😊
charliezero1.wordpress.com
Want you to have a wonderful and beautiful birthday.
Wishing you the very best and many, many, forever years of good karma.
Thank you for liking my post yesterday and for officially following each others blogs. Got a new post and its poetic puzzle with cryptic message. 🙂
PoojaG
Thank you so much! You’re very welcome and thanks for the follow as well! I will definitely check it out 🙂
charliezero1.wordpress.com
You welcome my friend. So happy for you and tomorrow will be so beautiful and full of happiness for you. 🙂
PoojaG
Thank you very much! Really appreciate your kind wishes 🙂
charliezero1.wordpress.com
🙂
Swati
A very happy birthday in advance! Welcome to the age group of 20 and you are really going to experience a stronger phase of your life where you will have to take many important decisions in your life.
I could feel so much connected to your post..yes, I too have been regarded as an adult in my teenage which opened up many ideas for me to exercise on.. that’s the specialty you should feel proud about..
Anyway, enjoy the day and live it to the fullest! 🙂
PoojaG
Thank you so much! Yeah I know my twenties come with a lot of responsibilities but at the same time they come with lots of new experiences which I’m looking forward to.
I’m glad you’re like that too! And yeah now I just think it’s something special about me and I like being me.
Swati
Definitely! Cherish your uniqueness! 🙂
PoojaG
Yes absolutely!
Shweta Suresh
Happy birthday, Pooja! 🎂🎉🎁 It can be a bit hard to accept but welcome to your twenties. It’s amazing how fast time flies by. t then again, age is just a number.
Shweta Suresh
Argghh.. that comment got sent while I was trying to edit a mistake!
Like I was saying, age is just a number. I can’t believe that my teenage days are over! (And I’m 22.) Maybe it’s just me who keeps thinking about the teenage days but the twenties aren’t that bad either. Have an awesome birthday. 😊
PoojaG
Thank you so much!! Yes I think a lot of awesome stuff happens as we get older and it’s pretty normal to reminisce about the past and your teenage years because I’m sure most people do this and you had some great memories as a teenager. But I’m sure you’ve made memories in your twenties too that you will someday cherish.
Shweta Suresh
Oh yes, that’s true. We will always reminisce about the past. 🙂
PoojaG
Yeah I think that’s fine as long as you don’t get stuck in the past 🙂
Shweta Suresh
Yep. Totally
inkgirlandwords
Happy birthday Pooja, you’re a beautiful person whatever age you are! I do admit, it is kinda scary to think about being an “adult.” Me has 7 years to go! Phew!
PoojaG
Thank you so much! Yes it’s definitely terrifying to become an adult but kind of awesome too! Cherish the years you have left as a teenager 🙂
emotionsoflife2016
Happy birthday 🎂
PoojaG
Thank you! 😊
emotionsoflife2016
My pleasure
Confused Thoughts
Wish u a very very happy bday
Keep writing
PoojaG
Thank you so much and I definitely will! 😊😁
Confused Thoughts
😇😇
Mithai Mumblezz
A very Happy Birthday Pooja!!!!! And a very happy and responsible 20s❤❤❤❤
Have fun pretty girl😘😘
PoojaG
Thank you so much and I definitely will!! 😊😊💞💖
Mithai Mumblezz
Lots of love and hugs sweets 😘😘
PoojaG
Thanks!! 😘💖
journeythroughawomansheart
Happy Birthday. Stay Blessed.
PoojaG
Thank you so much! 😊
Kaelalaena
Happy happy birthday! I felt the same way about turning 18 (graduated at 17 turned 18 that summer) I really didn’t think I would survive being an adult. I suppose 20 wasn’t a big deal because I was busy getting married and had been on my own for two years. Now I’m 63, so I think that means I survived, lol.
You seem pretty level headed. I too was told I was born grown up. Really bbgcmac said most of what I would say. You change the very most during your childhood and your twenties. In my day, most girls got married right out of high school. We were supposed to pick the person we wanted to spend the rest of our lives with when we didn’t even know who WE were yet. Take your time. Kids get to be children a little longer now because we live longer. Enjoy that time, explore your options. Never stop learning.
PoojaG
Thank you so much! Hahaha yes I think you survived adulthood so far!
Yeah we’re lucky to have more time to be independent and find ourselves now because there is less pressure to get married and have kids. And I definitely want to spend a lot of time during my twenties working on myself first.
dewittsbryan
happy birthday and 420. i also feel the same ‘excitement’ every time i turn older
PoojaG
Thank you! Yeah I think most people feel that way after a certain age
lyncrain
Happy Birthday, Pooja, hope your day is everything you want and so much more!
PoojaG
Thank you so much!! 😊😊
mistryland
Happy Birthday Pooj!! Yh its terrifying, but then this is just a number, it won’t even matter cause numbers don’t define us. As my mum put it today, a tree doesn’t grow old, it grows up!
PoojaG
Awww thanks Mistry! And tell your mum thanks for the awesome inspiration! Yeah in the end age is nothing but a number and it is who we are on the inside that defines us 🙂
johnsmithiiimxiii
Happy Birthday! For me, the two weeks before and the two weeks after birthdays seem to be a time of introspection. Sometimes we can forget the simple joy of living. Seeing the beauty of the little things and the peace in the calm of little joys. All the best!
PoojaG
Thank you so much! I am very similar too and I get very introspective before and after my birthday too but like you said it’s all about appreciating the little stuff and knowing what’s important.
D-Claire
You’re gonna be awesome. Happy birthday! X
PoojaG
Thank you so much! Haha I hope so 😊
Smitha V
Belated Happy Birthday Pooja! Enjoy each day as it comes. You feel like this when you’re 20 but when you’re 39, you’re waiting to be 40😊
PoojaG
Thank you so much!! Yeah it’s important to take each day as it comes and live in the moment 🙂
Mae's Piece of Mind
Oh, I do agree, you are matured beyond your years,.my young friend. Your writings show it. Belated Happy Birthday!!! I don’t know what happened but I am not receiving notifications from WordPress lately unless I receive comments or likes on my blog. I am not receiving any updates from followed sites/bloggers. Waah! I am getting left behind
PoojaG
Thank you so much!! 😊
Yeah WordPress is really annoying sometimes and just refuses to work! Sometimes I am not able to like others posts and if I like them the like goes away after a while. It’s really annoying.
The Wounds of the Abandoned...
So that’s how a girl feels when she realises that she’s growing. Happens!
Its the adrenaline of the future uncertainties blended with your expectations and (subconsciously) a bit of nostalgia too. I’m feeling it too. Will be 19 soon. 😕
Do read my post called ‘Growing up os painful’. Its not exactly about what you wrote, still its about the aforementioned subconscious nostalgia.
The Wounds of the Abandoned...
https://ashwritessite.wordpress.com/2016/04/19/growing-up-is-painful/
PoojaG
Yeah actually I think that’s how most people feel regardless of gender.
Yeah 19 is a scary age too because it’s your last year as a teenager.
Yeah I did check out the post and it was really insightful! 🙂
The Wounds of the Abandoned...
I am glad you appreciate it. ☺
johnsmithiiimxiii
I can’t remember when “adulthood” first struck me. I was just walking through my life one day and all of a sudden I realized, ‘huh!’ Maybe, as you seem to be doing, it is better to stop along the way and take stock. “It is a cunning plan!” Thanks for following A Total Solid Waste.
PoojaG
Yeah I think we just wake up sometimes and go “omg I’m an adult” and it’s exciting but it’s terrifying!
You’re welcome! Thanks for stopping by 🙂
poeturja
I’m an old woman and sure don’t mean to be negative but I believe, for quite a lot of us, that adulthood is merely in the minds of children. Although I find myself rocking out, still going out on dates (I had been married and have grown children) and giggling with my female friends, I do admit that I see wonderful glimmers of wisdom in my thought processes. Conversely, there are a lot of adults I know who suffer from arrested development and seem no more mature than when they were in high school (or kindergarten). Anyway, wishing you the gift of wonderful wisdom (more than occasional glimmers) and hope you had a happy birthday!
PoojaG
Yeah I definitely understand where you’re coming from. I think in some ways growing up is kind of a mindset and if you choose to live a certain way you really can enjoy growing up.
Thank you so much!! 🙂